The Truth

“The Truth” by Good Charlotte, music only

I guess it is only appropriate that this is my 250th post. It’s a milestone for me personally and a defining moment for my middle son, Dylan.

I finally got a call from Dylan’s psychologist yesterday and Dylan has been officially diagnosed with ADHD. I haven’t received all the results yet, just verbal confirmation on how to proceed.

“Dylan scored way above average on perceptual reasoning and average on verbal comprehension. He has an average working memory but a low processing speed. He’s a visual learner and will need visuals to help reinforce learning.”

I’ve started the process of having Dylan’s medical records transferred to Davis’ pediatrician and talked to the nurse to schedule the appointment to have him evaluated for medication.

This is a very emotional time for me, especially since I’ve been noticing some issues with my youngest son as well. I’ve been grieving inwardly and trying to come to terms with my vision vs. my reality of the family I’m raising.

I’m a terrible liar – yep even to myself. ha ha I feel that even though it can be very tough, knowing the truth is better than living in denial. “Truth Hurts!” Who ever came up with that phrase wasn’t kidding.

I guess it’s time to finish reading all the books I’ve been collecting on the subject. Drat! I need some quality time in my bathroom.

12 thoughts on “The Truth

  1. ♥ I can’t imagine what you’re going through! I’m with you that saying is the HARD truth. Sometimes I just want to crawl back in my little world of oblivion and not have to worry about real life!

    I hope that you guys are able to find something that works for everyone!

    Good luck!

  2. ah laurie! i wish i could be there for you. but i know you are surrounded by some incredible people. just hang in there girl! i know it seems overwhelming, but you are incredible. i can only imagine what an amazing person & mom you are. your kids are lucky to have you!

    you go girl!

  3. I am thinking of you right now. Anytime that our expectations are not met there is disappointment. It is difficult to have our family be something that is not turning out the way we had hoped. But there is sunshine after rain, always.
    Hang in there, you are a wonderful mother, your boys are blessed to have someone that will help them and take care of them.

  4. I’m sure this is bittersweet. Probably more bitter, but I’m glad at least now you know what you’re facing. You are truly amazing and if anyone can get through this, it’s you. Those boys are SOOOO lucky to have you as their mom. Imagine how lost they’d be without you. Please let me know if I can do anything to help. XOXO

  5. i am soo sorry to hear of these challenges. i was just thinking last night how i hadn’t heard the outcome of dylan’s test and i wanted to call you this week to follow up. how did you read my mind? the good news is, is that you know what is going on. you are awesome and you have what it takes to raise these beautiful boys.
    hang in there girl! diana

  6. Oh, Laurie! I’m sorry, but also glad that you have a dx. At least now you can move forward and know which way to go. Yea you for getting it checked out and being such a great advocate for him.

  7. I am reminded of a quote from President Hinckley. “It isn’t as bad as you think it is. It all works out. Don’t worry. I say that it myself every morning. Put your trust in God and move forward with faith and confidence in the future. The Lord will not forsake us. He will not forsake us. If we will put our trust in Him, if we will pray to Him, if we will live worthy of His blessings, he will hear our prayers.

  8. Ah, sweetie, I’m sorry! Know that you have lots of love and support behind you! If you ever need a shoulder, you know where to find me!

  9. I found your blog from your website-which I love by the way!

    Anyway, we seem to have a quite a bit in common and I think I have some idea what you are going through. I know what you mean by the vision vs. the reality of the family you are raising. What we had envisioned is no longer a reality for us and it takes time to accept that.

    I have two boys- both diagnosed with a special need. My oldest has Dyslexia/Learning Disabilities and my youngest boy- he’s Dylan too- has ADHD. It is emotionally hard enough to have one child be diagnosed and then to find out another is too was devestating. I always kind of knew something wasn’t quite right, but to actually hear it from a professional was difficult for me!

    At first I felt like a terrible mom, almost like did I do something wrong? Then I felt sorry for myself like why me? Why both of my kids?

    My children like yours look completely normal. You would never suspect anthing by just looking at them. I sometimes feel like others are judging me or my children just because they can not see their disability. They are not aware of how this affects our day to day life and the stuggles we face.

    After the diagnosis of my second child a family member had to put things in persective for me. I had to be reminded that even though things were not as I had always imagined them to be, I had happy, healthy children; something some parents could only wish for.

    I have accepted and know we can’t change the way things are, but we can find ways to deal with it and make it better. Although sometimes this seems like a never ending overwhelming thing, just take it day by day! My best wishes go out to you and your family!

  10. I know somewhat where you are right now (in your mind and heart). I had a hard time accepting that my only son would have these difficulties, but I couldn’t love him more for what he is. It was such a relief for a doctor to confirm what I knew was true. Since we have had the diagnosis I can’t tell you how it has changed our family for the better. It does break my heart to think that one of my girls might have it, too, however, now that I understand how these little brains work (or don’t work exactly) it opened my eyes so much to their world.

    You are a special mom and you have very special little men in your family. I would love to get together for lunch sometime and hash out these feelings. I’m prayin’ for you!

  11. My Mr. T is ADHD. I have to tell you that the ADHD Answer Book is GREAT!
    And we use a discipline system called 1-2-3 Magic, and it’s GREAT!
    I know how you feel when it’s not “exactly what you thought it’d be”.
    Hope that things start to settle down!
    Your boys are sooooo lucky to have such a great mom!

  12. It’s interesting that your boy is a visual learner too. My ADHD son scored genius level on his visual learning/comprehension. I wonder if it’s just the norm that people with this disorder just learn that way. Interesting.

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